My name is Rhyll (rhymes with Bill), and this is my life. With a name like Rhyll I can’t be anonymous. So, in sharing my story with the world, I choose not to be. Through this website, I hope to bring you smack dab into the middle of my life. It is very messy at times; downright ugly at others. But it is wonderful and beautiful most of the time.
I have a friend that calls me quirky, “characterized by peculiar or unexpected traits. Quirky charm.” When I first heard that I was taken aback. Quirky didn’t sound graceful or beautiful or wonderful! But over time I’ve sort of settled into it. I am quirky!
I’m not perfect. I’m a lot like you. I do my best talking at my kitchen counter, as many of you probably do too. This site is really not so different from any kitchen-counter conversation, and I invite you to come and talk with me any time you are feeling joy, sadness, intimacy, or pain. You’ll get to know me through my stories on my “Kitchen Conversations” video blog page where I talk about important principles I have learned thought out my journey, and through my “Get Rhyll” blog where I will post events, articles I have found, inspirational videos, and random tid-bits about my life today. And, I am excited to get to know you through your emails and comments on the website. Please email me any time with your anonymous questions, for the “Q&A” page, that you can ask here.
Someone once told me that Rhyll means “a sunny place.” This site is my effort to be a sunny place in contrast with the darkness of addiction and other overwhelming difficulties. In spite of the adversities I have been through because of my husband’s sexual addiction, I desire to be a sunny place for myself and others. In sharing my story, I hope I can shed some light on the path of recovery and healing for other women who have experienced betrayal and trauma in their lives.
Although my pain comes from my husband’s pornography and sexual addiction, I hope to reach people from all walks of life. We all experience trauma, betrayal, and excruciating pain in our lives, sometimes at the hands of others, and often in situations we cannot control. Coming together and openly discussing our shortcomings, strengths, moments of joy, and moments of despair can bring peace and comfort to all of us.
If I could give just one message to you this day, I would let you know that you are not alone in this. You are unique, but your situation is not. Though we will each need to find our own path, our needs are much the same, and together and with God’s help we can meet our challenges with courage and strength. You won’t need to look far to find someone who understands what you’re going through. With recovery, you will not only find healing, peace, hope, and serenity for yourself, but you too can stand as an friend and advocate ready to give encouragement, confidence, strength, and spiritual encouragement to another person. You are not alone. We are not alone.